The child must know that he is a miracle, that since the beginning of the world there hasn't been, and until the end of the world, there will not be another like him. (Or her) ~ Pablo Casals
Happy May! I just love this time of year don't you? The long wait for leaves to pop and first blossoms to bloom is finally over! Now we can get down to business tending our suburban gardens and farmsteads. I'll share my "new starts " from the greenhouse before this post comes to an end but with Mother’s day just around the corner I can't help thinking back on some of my most memorable
" MOM MOMENTS ".
Grab a Kleenex box and your favorite comfy chair. This post might go longer than usual and there may be some happy tears!
I don't know about you, but, to me every day is Mothers' Day when you are a mom. Whether you are a biological mother, step mother, adoptive mother or legal guardian each day brings mom moments to cherish, laugh at and even a few we would like to sweep under the rug never to be seen again. Let's start with those “mom moments" shall we? How about those times when your kids were in their wonder years and you locked yourself in the bathroom for a time out because you wanted your husband or significant other to come home to the same number of family members he left at home that morning! Oh yeah, I'll admit to one or two of those days. I remember one day when I was just beat from chasing our (then two year old) daughter around when I wanted our son (then 4) to take a nap. He didn't have terrible two's he had terrible 4's and he didn't take naps anymore! He was bound and determined to show me he wasn't a baby anymore! I did manage to get him to go for some quiet time in his room with a book. As I went to close his bedroom door he said to me and I quote, “well, why don't you just cut me in half "? I burst out laughing while facing way from him. I didn't want him to think I was laughing AT him. When I turned to look at his little angry face my heart melted. I gave him hug, told him how very much I loved him and that I would never, ever, EVER cut him in half, no matter what!
Speaking of cutting, I remember clear as a bell the day he marched his sister into the kitchen to show me the wonderful haircut he had given her with my cutting shears! He stood in front of me so proudly and with his arm draped around her shoulders he said," Mommy, (HUGE grin) look what I did to MY Nicolette."!!! I gave her a haircut and she didn't even cry one time!" Boy, he wasn't kidding. She was just about three and finally getting some hair with little curls on the ends. All she had left were two little curly-cues in front of each ear and the rest was a pixie cut! See? Here she is at the “Kids Fair “sporting her new “punk rock “hair- do! I guess we should have known then she had the music in her!
He knew how to indulge her in make believe too! Here she is all painted up like a kitty cat. When they were small they had a lot of “down time ". I knew in my heart if they were allowed to play, explore, build, cut, glue, sing, and dance they would be making important learning connections that would help them later on when more structured learning began. I distinctly remember our daughter spending an entire hour jumping off of the couch one day. I was sitting at the kitchen table doing “mom stuff ". All I could hear was thump, thump, thump, thump, thump.... Somewhere in my subconscious I knew what she was doing. Pretty soon she wondered into the kitchen, climbed into my lap and said, “Mommy, I've been trying to fly all day and I just can't do it!” I knew right then and there my girl was going places in life.
You must be wondering what kind of mother I was leaving scissors and markers out where little hands could find them. Well, I'm not perfect. I'm a mom and it was easy to get distracted by a load of laundry that needed folding, a phone call or preparing meal. Besides having two small children in the house will do that to a girl! We all know that after child birth our brains are never the same. It's never as sharp or quick as it used to be, but something else is and all mothers’ have it. It’s the old Mother's intuition. Our brains may be foggy but our hearts are right in tune. We know it’s at work when we feel a tug here, and a pull there. It’s the one tool we need and use the most besides the washing machine and the vacuum cleaner of course. I don't know any other station in life that can be as beautiful, tiring, FUNNY and humbling all at the same time. Do you?
Fast forward 16 years. I'm a 50 year old woman with a teenaged daughter in the house. We share a bathroom, kinda sorta. It's a rare occasion when I can find my mascara, lotion, blow-dryer, curling iron, or a clean washcloth or towel when I need them. I am just a mom after all. I can remember “borrowing” my mom's makeup and hair appliances too. Mom, if you're reading. I LOVE YOU TONS and thanks for being such a good sport about the makeup thing way back when!
It's a good thing I have a healthy sense of humor and an appreciation for all the years that have brought me to this point in life. I remember being her age; completely obsorbed with makeup, hair, clothes and boys. She's right where she is supposed to be and so am I! Oh, I'm still facinated with make-up, ( I wear it, but the frosted blue eyeshadow has been passed on to my daugther ) hair, ( I still have some ) clothes ( I'm happy if I have a few pairs of fun shoes/boots and a cute purse to go with my jeans, tops and some funky jewlery)
and boys...( my three main men ) Boz, my handsome Yankee
and our sweet son Zach and Max!
Zach is just two years away from college and thinking of a career in music producing. How cool is that? I'm so excited for him that he already has a passion he can see himself pursuing for years to come. Nicolette is also musically gifted and I see music being a big part of her life as well. In some ways these years are almost as exciting as when they were newborns. Everything is new, they have the whole world at their feet and the possibilities seem endless...I'd be lying if I didn't admit to feeling just as nervous as I am excited about the coming years for them. But, I am also so inspired by their creativity, faith and boundless energy!
Teeny, tiny Zinnia seedlings
I'm feeling some of that same excitement and nervousness today about my tender starts in the greenhouse! I hope and pray I've done everything right to give them the best possible beginning so they'll grow into strong, healthy and vibrant people, I mean flowers. They are my “new " babies!
Because we have always homeschooled our milestone moments look a little different than our puplic and private school friends. We didn't have the traditional first day of school photos or first day on the bus or the annual school picture day. We just have lots and lots of pictures. Boz makes a Bosworth Family Album every year, puts it on CD and we watch it over the holiday season together.
But, we do have our own unique ways of celebrating and honoring special achievements and growth.
Our young man ready for his first day of work at his new job with Mac Donalds! Sis is rooting him on!
One thing we love to do when we acknowledge any special occasion is to light a candle at the dinner table. Once the candle is lit that person has the floor so to speak and gets to tell all about their “sunshine " moment of the day! You can bet your bottom dollar I lit the candle the day I joined the ranks of the MJF Farmgirl Bloggers! We've celebrated, birthdays, anniversaries, first dances, first recitals, first jobs and new jobs, getting braces, turning into teens, New Years, Boy Scout and Rainbow girl achievements, puppy love and people love. I know I'll be lighting it on Mother's Day if someone doesn't beat me too it! Oh, who am I kidding? Has anyone seen the lighter?
Okay sisters! Enough about me! Share a mom moment with us in the comments section! Pretty Please?????
Until our next shoreline visit~ enjoy these lilacs and honeysuckle from the BEACH!
I'm wishing you ALL a very Happy Mother's Day!
Much love and Beach Blessings,
Proud Momma Deb
PS Dear Zach and Nicolette, Thank you for making me the woman I am today. Older, grayer, chubbier, fuzzy headed, worry wart, school marm, taxi driver, head cook and laundress, psychologist, hairdresser, and quite possibly the happiest momma I know...You guy's rock! I love you to infinity and beyond!
PSS please don't be mad at me for sharing your photos... I had too! You make me so proud! XOXO Momma B
My brag book would be empty if it wasn't for you... I love you with all of my heart!